As experienced leaders, we understand that communication is amongst one of the most important traits that a leader should possess. In his article, 10 Communication Secrets of Great Leaders, Mr. Mike Myatt states that it is simply impossible to become a great leader without being a great communicator. I wholeheartedly agree with the statement. The ability to communicate across the organization both up and down is essential to the success of a great leader. There are a number of traits or skills that are needed to communicate with subordinates properly. Among the most important of these traits, is the ability to be transparent and authentic when communicating with your team. Specifically, subordinates want an honest and transparent leader. We as leaders understand that open and honest communication leads to better relationships within the workplace. This, of course, leads to a more efficient and productive workplace. However, there are times when openness and transparency can be a detriment to the working environment.


As a young Non-Commissioned Officer (NCO) in the military one of the first lessons, I learned as a junior leader is how to fight battles for my team in private. There were many times when I would receive a task or mission from my leaders that I did not 100% agree with or felt there was a better way of accomplishing a task. For these instances, I would communicate with my leaders in private in hopes of changing their minds or modifying the task. As a young NCO, I seldom won these battles. Despite the outcome, I never discussed these battles with my team. Often my team would gripe and complain, expressing the same reservations or complaints that I had expressed in private. However, I would quickly address those reservations and move out with my orders as if they were my own.

Your team doesn’t need to know about the battles that go on behind closed doors on their behalf. As leaders, we may need to convince leadership to make changes within the organization to benefit the team in some form or fashion. Similar to my NCO days, some battles we will win and some we will lose. Despite the outcome, there is little benefit of sharing this information with the team. If you were successful the team will benefit and if you weren’t you can go back to the drawing board to devise a better strategy. However, just the knowledge of those discussions has the potential to lower morale and cause dissension within the team. Specifically, when your win/loss record isn’t so hot, this can have the team doubting your ability to represent them adequately. Or worse, if you find yourself blaming failures on the lack of support from higher. This can lead to an “us versus them” culture within the organization which is never good.


Subordinates want to feel they can relate to their leaders. Knowing some of a leader’s interests, likes and dislikes can help build a relationship of trust and hopefully mutual understanding. In the military, especially during deployments, some of the most authentic relationships are forged due to the sharing of personal aspects of each other’s life. However, too much of a good thing can have adverse effects on an authentic leader / subordinate relationship. Here are a few examples of oversharing:

Discussing privileged information about leadership or the organization:  As a leader within an organization, you may be subject to information about leaders or the organization that is not available to your subordinates. However, these are not your secrets to share and should not be discussed with your subordinates in an attempt to be transparent. Additionally, opinions about leadership or organization based on privileged information should also not be shared. This information can only lead to negativity towards yourself, the leadership or the organization.

Sharing too much from other team members: Subordinates want to feel that they can trust the information with their leaders. Leaders will sometimes use a team member personal conversation as an example or to get a point across or build trust with another team member. This method of communication and sharing should be avoided. Leaders should not break team members trust to gain the trust of another.

Becoming too emotional: Yes, subordinates want to have an authentic connection with their leaders. However, they also want to have confidence in the leader’s emotional intelligence. In my article, Self-Awareness Part 2 – Emotional Intelligence, I discuss the importance of being emotionally steadfast. Though you may feel that sharing your emotions demonstrates your openness to your subordinates, it can sometimes be seen as a lack of control.

As a general rule openness, honesty and transparency are vital traits found within leaders who can effectively communicate. However, as leaders become more experienced, they will discover that there are exceptions to every rule. The truly great leaders will be able to discern when those exceptions apply.