For parents, your leadership role doesn’t end when you close up the office. For many of us, this is when the real work begins, going home to motivate, influence and direct the family. This week and for the rest of this month, we will cover the topic of leading diverse teams. This topic is not relegated to the workplace. Today’s diverse culture, specifically, in the United States is often most apparent in the American household where parents must deal with the diversity of personalities, ages, gender, and even race. As a result, we. are going to provide parents with a few tips to manage and lead a household with different personalities.

“Raising children is a creative endeavor, an art rather than a science.”

– Bruno Bettelheim


As parents, we sometimes think that since we have provided our kids with similar upbringing, advice, and tools for success, they should respond that same way. Therefore, we constantly compare them to one another, believing that they should be similar in nature. We couldn’t be more wrong, children experience and view aspects of life differently depending on a number of factors to include outside experiences, the influence of others, and personality types. I have twin sons, whose personalities are like night and day.  One is quiet, reserved and usually thinks before he speaks or reacts. The other is more emotional, aggressive, quick to react. However, they have never been separated and grew up with both parents rearing them similarly. The first reality, I needed to grasp, was that my children were different, not just my two girls being different from my twin boys, but that each child has a distinct personality and therefore will react and respond to situations differently.


Some families follow a specific religion or the family has specific values and traditions that have been passed down over the ages. Whichever path your family chooses, it’s essential to set core values which will provide a common baseline for all members of the household. Despite the varying personality types, this will help all family members adhere to the family’s non-negotiables. For example, my family does not follow a traditional Christian set of values. However, we do require a more disciplined and organized standard than most. It is likely for our military background. Therefore, respect and integrity are core values of our family, and as such we have instilled these values in our children and our day to day family life.


When parents have multiple children, it can be hard to manage all the personalities without someone feeling slighted. Even choosing what game to play on Game Night or what to eat for dinner can be a challenge. However, it’s vital to ensure that everyone understands that their opinion matters. For example, when my wife and I had four kids in the house, we would have a Sunday Gameday. We would grab snacks, play some music and play a couple of hours of games. We would usually choose three games, that way we would have a game that everyone liked. Typically, our twins would pick the same game, and our two younger daughters would choose separate games, this helps to obtain everyone’ buy-in. For the snack menu, we would let everyone picks a snack, i.e., pizza roles wingdings, etc. and then we would do a variety of snacks while playing games.

Work, life balance is essential to a successful leader. Therefore, leaders must ensure that they discover ways to become better at managing and leading within the workplace, home, and the community.